Getting courage to be able to do something if you have anxiety when it comes to playing in bed. This goes for several different things. Outfits, positions, something you may want your partner to do, it can all be very hard to talk about. You probably get nervous, but know it needs to be addressed.
The different positions can be a really hard one, I mean who wants to accidentally look like an idiot when the position you wanted to try feels and is definitely not as easy as you thought it would be? lol The different movements and angles that your partner might see. That is all so scary. Ladies, we all know that we are self conscious at some point with our bodies, that is something that might make your mind race when this comes into play. There are ways to alleviate this problem and make it a better experience for everyone. I am here to tell you right now, if you are not the smallest chick in the world so the idea of getting on top of him scares the crap out of you. Start out slowly, let’s be real its a fucking cardio session. Limit the time you are on top of him and then flip him over. I don’t know about you, but flipping, and rolling during sex is hot as fuck. Just exploring is hot.
Fucking lingerie! Hot as fuck or not? Well, first off your man is already going to want to fuck you anyways, sexy lingerie is just the icing on top of the cake. Therefore, we know how daunting it can be to go into a lingerie store and find an outfit that fits perfect, but let’s face it, women are all not built the same. Ladies you may have to try on 26 different items but thats ok. If the first 25 don’t fucking do it for you, then fuck it go for one more and that maybe the one that makes you feel like a goddess! Fellas, if your lady pulls this shit off, you better fucking appreciate it! Think about it, she went thru god knows how many outfits and how much time that all took, then dropped a wod of cash on this just to show off her goodies. Be appreciative, and make her feel comfortable and confident about the outfit she picked out. Don’t be that douche that doesn’t appreciate it, and is a negative fuck about it. But also try not to ruin it…
Next thing we’re going to move onto is when there is something that you want to try or have done and your partner is just not getting it. If you want a toy used, you want something kissed more, or just want something done differently in general you have to be able to ask. You don’t want to step on toes, or make them feel uncomfortable right? Dropping hints can only go so far. The next thing I can say is drop stories of your friends and how much they enjoyed it. There are times when it’s not that people don’t want to do things, but they can’t hold on long enough to them, this one goes for mostly guys. They probably do want to do all those hot & risky things, but they can’t hold on or it gets too complicated when they go to do it.
Finally, we’re going to talk about dirty talk and doing little kinky things. What I mean is the choking, sucking on fingers, back scratching, thigh kissing stuff. Not everyone has the courage to just say, “Damn, your cock tastes good.” Some people are really shy and that’s okay. One of the most important things that we have said over and over is to make sure everyone is comfortable and there should be absolutely no judgement in the bedroom and you shouldn’t make your partner feel like there is. The dirty talk is one thing that some people really have a hard time doing and you should feel okay to just fucking say it. Ten to one your partner is not going to think anything bad by it but rather how hot it is!
In the end, people are different, people feel different, people do different things. Why not make it easier for someone with noticing if they are nervous or if there is something stopping them. Changing and overcoming can really change your entire sex life. It can make everything so much fucking better! Don’t be afraid to try new things and have fun with it along the way!
Leave us a comment below on somethings that may have made you uncomfortable in the bedroom and how you overcame the situation.